Etiquette for Social Gatherings

Attending a social gathering requires knowing a few basic etiquette guidelines. There is proper etiquette–what attire to wear, how to RSVP and what to bring–for just about every social event. At times, all of these can seem a little overwhelming, especially when you consider that there is a whole different set of guidelines for business etiquette. Knowing a few basic etiquette principles will help you feel more comfortable during the evening. Remember to use common sense, and look for good examples of proper etiquette if you don’t know what to do.

Toasting

Understand the proper etiquette for toasting at a social gathering. Traditionally, the host offers the first toast, especially at formal occasions. Guests can offer the first toast at less formal occasions, such as dinner parties, to thank the host for bringing everyone together. Stand to deliver your toast while everyone remains seated unless otherwise instructed by the toaster. After the toast, the toastee raises his glass or bows his head in acknowledgement to say thank you but does not drink. Prepare your toast in advance so you know what to say; this prevents rambling. Keep it short and focused on the toastee and the event. Speak clearly with sincerity and confidence.

Greetings

Saying hello and goodbye to your host is proper etiquette for a social gathering. Greet the host within 10 minutes of arrival. A common greeting for North Americans and Europeans is a firm handshake. For situations where people are well-acquainted, a peck on the cheek is appropriate. Refrain from kissing in business situations because it can easily be misunderstood. Use a softer grip when greeting Asians and Middle Easterners because the handshake is a newer custom in those regions. Seek out your host to say thank you and goodbye. Always say goodbye to guests you know well or talked to for an extending period of time.

Dinner Table

Sitting down at the dinner table for a social gathering can be intimidating. Use the following guidelines as a starter for dinner table etiquette (here are many more detailed guidelines). Pass food dishes to the right around the table, but use common sense if someone a few spots down on your left asks for a dish. Use silverware starting from the outside in, and indicate you are finished by placing the silverware together at the 4 o’clock position on your plate. Place the napkin on your lap as soon as you are seated. Never ask for seconds, but graciously accept them when offered. If you’re unsure about proper etiquette, watch and follow good examples around the table.

Source – Erica Green, eHow